I wound up chatting with one of the voice teachers and store owner during M’s voice lesson last night. Store owner’s wife is expecting, and voice teacher has a little one herself. I mentioned that SO MANY PEOPLE I know have all had kids in the past year. Without skipping a beat, voice teacher says, “You aren’t jumping on that bandwagon just because everyone else is, are you?” and I shook my head emphatically.
“Good,” she said. “Don’t have kids until you feel that there’s something missing. And if nothing ever feels like it’s missing, you don’t have to have them at all.”
Of all of the things I’ve read over the years on parenthood, I think that right there has been one of the most clear and sensible pieces of advice.
I’m not ruling out the possibility that somewhere up the road, there might be a hole there to fill, but at this point, there really isn’t. That was a really guilt-free way to think about it. I liked it.
I’ve seen a lot of posts on my dash tonight about users who are threatening suicide, with other Tumblr members posting in effort to try to get ahold of them. I think you all should see this:
IF THERE IS EVER A TUMBLR USER WHO HAS POSTED A GOOD-BYE MESSAGE, SUICIDE NOTE, VIDEO, OR ANYTHING OF THE SORT, PLEASE FOLLOW THIS POST.
1. Scroll to the top of your dashboard.
2. See the circular question mark icon at the top? It’s the third one over from your home symbol. Click on that, and a screen similar to the one in the picture will come up.
3. Where you can type in questions, the box with the magnifying glass at the top, type in the word “suicide.”
4. Click on the first link that shows up. It should say, “Pass the URL of the blog on to us.”
5. Type in the user’s URL and tell Tumblr admin that the user is contemplating suicide and has posted a message indicating that they are going through with it or will be attempting. Hit send! Tumblr administration will perform a number of actions to contact the user and take the necessary steps to prevent the suicide.
TUMBLR: THIS COULD SAVE A USER’S LIFE. PLEASE DO NOT IGNORE SUICIDE THREATS.
Reblog this to keep other users aware. Suicide isn’t a joke, and neither is someone’s life. If you didn’t know this, someone else may not, either. Pass it on.
why on earth doesn’t this have more notes
I actually had to do this once. She lived.
if you scroll past this on your dash you are absolutely heartless.
I couldn’t ignore this - Just in case. I was not aware of this feature, and if it helps ANYONE, then it has served its purpose.
Round of applause, tumblr. Good to know.
Wow, this is neat. Good to know.
Found this via reddit
finally something that treats introverts and extroverts as equals
The punctuation is even accurate holy shit
Freaking thank you. Being shy and being an introvert are not the same thing, as well as being obnoxious and being an extrovert.
but at the same time if youre obnoxious youre expected to change that
very informative and proof you can share qualities in both
The punctuation thing kills me. While chatting in games, I used to finish everything with ellipses. I’ve been trying to avoid that, but slip every now and then. I think I’m a combination of Shy-Introvert-Obnoxious. “Bypasses brain and goes directly out mouth” happens a lot more than I’d like, but it doesn’t always mean I wish I wouldn’t have said those things. Many times, I just wish I had worded things a little more nicely. I think it makes me appear a lot more aloof and blunt than I am.
This is interesting. I’ve started to realize, based on things like this, that I’m not as purely introvert as I’ve believed. Depending on who I’m with, I may be more extraverted. My mother is very much in the shy category, where my mother in law shares a lot of obnoxious qualities.
Reason why I hate cats. They’re so scary.
THE BABY SMACKED THE CAT WHY ARE YOU BLAMING THE ANIMAL
I’ve reblogged this gif before. You can tell by the cat’s defensive position prior to being hit that it was already feeling threatened/afraid. Someone should have intervened. I would be -shocked- if this was the first time the child had gone after the cat. There’s likely a precedent here.
Please, teach your children how to treat animals, how to respect them. Please provide a safe environment for the animals, who have no choice but to live in the conditions you set for them.
If you won’t do the above, either find a new, stable home for the cat (not a kill shelter), or don’t blame the cat when it defends itself.